In an endeavor to become a better person, I, Jason D. Pickett, do hereby establish this code of chivalry and doctrine of my conduct concerning the courting and general treatment of women. The general intension of the code is to set approximate guidelines for how to deal with and treat women, especially in ambiguous situations. Several years ago I wrote a different code of chivalry, but find it to be lacking in many respects. Additionally, I find it to be too sycophantic, which is harmful both to my own self respect and that of the women whom I take to escort. I have thus taken to writing this code as an updated alternate to the original. I hope this can satisfy all difficulties I may run into in the future concerning confusing situations or actions. If at any time this list fails, immediate revision will be expected. The reason for creating such a code is because of my love for women generally and my attempt to prove to them what they should expect from me in regard to dating and intimacy. If at any time I should fail in these precepts, I would appreciate being notified of my failure and will thus attempt to improve toward them.
First Precept- Leadership: In dealing with women, I see it as my duty to always be the primary leader and make decisions with her opinion respectfully in mind: meaning that I intend to always have the quality of leadership and never fail at knowing what to do and when to do it. I should never want to place these burdens on the one I am taking to escort by demanding decision making be up to her alone. Ideally, this will be an equal partnership of decisions being made, but never hesitate to make a decision in nearly any regard. Be ever confident in the matters of love.
Second Precept- Gentleness: Never ever hurt a woman: physically, emotionally, mentally or otherwise, this is paramount as it represents the very opposite of every intention I should have for any given woman. Additionally, never force a woman to do something she doesn’t want to do, especially in an intimate way.
Third Precept- Generosity: Aspire to provide everything for a woman, especially on dates. This is not to suggest by any means gifting too often or in a way that is anything but expressive for my genuine selfless feelings for a woman. However as a man, I feel it is my duty to provide as often as possible, and certainly to never expect it from a woman.
Fourth Precept- Thoughtfulness: Always consider a woman when making decisions, pay attention to her and how things affect her. Using this knowledge, make things as pleasant as possible for any woman you are with. Let her know, through your actions and words, that she is always in your thoughts. Also in this regard, perform the more traditional ‘chivalrous courtesies’ such as opening doors, and standing when she arrives at the table and so on.
Fifth Precept- Understanding: Always accept with good humor and grace a girl’s faults and failings, and bear in mind her motivations. Always listen to her and take her words as being meaningful and worthwhile.
Sixth Precept- Fidelity: I know myself and my eye’s tendency to wander, but never let fleeting fancies take my faithfulness from the woman I truly love. If there is ample reason to date or see another, be courteous enough to end any prior relationship gracefully beforehand.
Seventh Precept- Honesty: As expressed in my Proclamation of Virtues, honesty is a very important ideal for me. Regarding women and relationships it is vital that I am always honest and up front about all situations. Never lead a girl on.
Eighth Precept- Idealism: Be the ideal mate for any woman, try to accommodate to what you think she needs and when she needs it. Be the best person you can be in: appearance, knowledge, skill, thought and demeanor. In this way, expect high standards in women, especially in performance and artistic skills. Be ever encouraging and do not tolerate anything less than constant improvement and growth as a couple.